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B&BMom
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« on: 12 December 2003, 22:22:00 pm »
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My 22 months son has become quite aggressive ever since we moved to Singapore 3 weeks ago.   This is the second daycare he has attended within 2 1/2 weeks.  He bites more than 1 kid almost on a daily basis.  The teachers couldn't stop him because he is way too fast.  we have tried very hard to tell him it's not okay to bite other people and he seems understand that.  But then everyday there are angry parents and stressed teachers I have to attend to.  We really don't need this since there are just way too much going on for us already.  

Please, does anyone has any suggestions how to deal with this problem.  I would much appreciated if you would share it with me.

-StressedMom

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« Reply #1 on: 14 December 2003, 8:06:00 am »
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sorry... apart  from a muzzle I can't offer up much constructive help except to say that if it is like "hair pulling" he will grow out of it with firm reprimands and time.
It must be really difficult to deal with. If it is at all possible perhaps he should wait another 6 months to attend daycare....the changes in his life may be exacerbating the situation.
all the best !
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« Reply #2 on: 14 December 2003, 8:27:00 am »
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when we moved from South Africa to England my son was 18 months old, he went through the stage of hitting of everything and everyone - it was really embaressing, especially as its very hard to make friends with someone when your child is beating up their little girl/ boy!  all i did was every time he was violent i used to take him away from the playing area and put him in a corner for a couple of minutes to calm down then i made him go to the child and say sorry.  after about 3 months things started to get better.  we then moved from england to singapore and he reverted back to the violence.  again it makes it very difficult but perserverance with "time out" and saying sorry seemed to work.  all i kept on thinking of was is the fact that its really stressful for us as adults to move and to try and settle down but we can at least understand it and when we get upset we can verbalise how we feel - our little ones also feel the stress and the unsettlement but they have not got the ability to verbalise so they revert to the only way they can, either by hitting or biting (some kids pinch and pull hair!).  good luck - time will help - that and consistantly telling your child that biting is not good.  you will also be surprised how many other children go through the same thing so do not feel alone.
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