Am I the only one in step?

[Old Mike]

This board is full of postings about men leaving their attractive wives  and loving families for SPGs.
In my experience most men are lazy creatures of habit.
If I am comfortable and well looked after at home, I am most unlikely to throw it all over for a younger woman, however attractive I may find her.
It seems to me that a man would have to be pretty miserable with his present lot before he jumps into another relationship, knowing how much it is going to cost.
What do you think?

[Buddha himself]

That is why it is much smarter to have one on the side, rather than ditch the old one.

[TheWrathOfGrapes]

If the wives are attractive AND loving, I don't think the husbands will be going for the SPGs.

[EyeSpy]

Grass is always greener on the other side!

[cactus]

Men can be easily tempted to cheat but only leave their wives in favour of a mistress if the wife feels unbearable and the mistress is (correctly or incorrectly) judged to be trustworthy.

[Vulcanl]

Agree with Old Mike....keep your man happy and he will be less likely to have wandering eyes (this of course goes for men taking care of their ladies as well).

[TheWrathOfGrapes]

Well Cactus, I won't leave my wife if she ONLY feels unbearable.  It is only when her action or behaviour becomes unbearable - that is, when she becomes unbearable, then will I leave her.

[justagirl]

hmm,  i guess I haven't seen too many marraige/relationship break-ups in my life but i don't think it is because the men are unhappy at home. Some men just don't have a sense of loyalty or respect for women (or other people) and these are the one most likely to cheat.

I have had friends who were stunning whose husbands cheated, and friends who were overweight slobs that have the most devoted husbands i have ever seen.

My prediction on Keven Federline and Brittany Spears was that he was faithful for about 2 weeks max.  

Some guys are just cheaters - I think i have a pretty good radar to pick them.

[cactus]

Marriage breakups due to another woman (or man) occur everywhere. They happen with people of the same race and also across different races. Unfortunately Singapore can never seem to get its head around interracial relationships and they are negative towards interracial relationships.

Consequently, every expat man who gets a local mistresses is talked to death.
But when a local Singapore male gets a China mistress, everything is kept discrete and quiet...and that is why this thread exists...

[WELSH LADY]

Re justagirl replay.
Well said girl, i so agree with you.
Respect!

[pills]

yup, some men are just cheaters by nature. i have a fren who's like n he thinks that as long as he goes back to his wife at the end of the day, he's not really that bad.

n he said the reason he married her even though she wasn't the most gorgeous woman to him is that she's open enough to accomodate his flirtatious nature. (of course not knowing the FULL extent he goes with some women).

so there.

[noyouarenot]

I'd say that you are not the only guy in step and that this board is somewhat sensationalised. Look on this board as like a bit of a soap opera. Some men and women are just pigs. i have a friend who has just gotten married and she is his 3rd wife. She's only 35 and she's now a step Grandma. His daugher is the same age as her. His first marraige ended when he left her for another woman whom he married then he met my friend and left wife no.2 for my friend. Now to me the alarm bells went WHIRRRRR as soon as I met him, but she's totally smitten. I am waiting for it all to go pear shaped. On the other side of the coin I have a cousin whom butter wouldn't melt in her mouth and we were constantly compared to her as kids "why can't you be more like XXXX, she is so great at xxxx etc." She is a great cook, makes dreses, very homey etc. Anyway over the past 10 years she has left her kids and husband 4 times to go off with another guy. Every time he then leaves her to go back to his wife and kids and she is alone and her husband takes her back. Her son is now a teenager and has major problems with women in general (says he hates women!)  I also have a friend whose husband turned out to be a serial cheater and she found out. She left him and met someone else and now has a baby. He's desperately trying to get her back, even wanting to take on the baby but she's too smart to go back to him. It turns out that he is unable to have kids too so he's really ballsed things up for himself. So you see it happens both sides and to different types of people.

If my husband cheated on me I wouldn't forgive him and he knows it. I can understand the monotony of marraige at times and the boredom of staring at me everyday but I could not forgive my huband putting my kids happiness at risk and their opportunities in life at risk for a quick one. He went into marraige and kids with his eyes wide open.

[Hear Hear!]

You Go, Girl!

[Old Saying]

Marrying the mistress just creates a vacancy.

Once a dog, always a dog!

[dear men]

havent you all heard the famous song
"IF YOU WANT TO BE HAPPY FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE, NEVER MAKE A PRETTY WOMAN YOUR WIFE"

dont go chasing locals if your married. its called KARMA. it will come back and bite you big time.