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Author Topic: Why Can't I Find a Girl Like Dear Old Me?  (Read 824 times)
NewKid
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« on: 20 June 2002, 14:13:00 pm »

A group of psychologists at St. Andrews University in Scotland has debunked the theory that opposites attract. They say people really want a partner who looks a lot like what they see in the mirror. After recruiting volunteers to rate the attractiveness of faces flashed on a computer screen, the researchers found that both men and women gave higher scores to the countenances that more closely resembled their own. When the researchers used a program to morph each subject's face into a gender-reversed version, the responses got even more enthusiastic. "The ideal was a slightly changed version of themselves, what an identical twin of the opposite sex would look like if such a thing were possible," says David Perrett, who led the study.

The search for lookalike lovers is probably driven less by narcissism than by sexual imprinting, the common tendency of animals to choose mates that resemble their parents in order to continue the species. In the St. Andrews study, women who were born to older couples were more likely to overlook wrinkles when evaluating the desirability of men. Men were willing to overlook a few extra years only if their fathers had married older women and if they were judging the face for a long-term relationship. "So there may be a bit of truth in Freud after all," Perrett says.

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Interesting article. I always thought that the theory "Opposites Attract" is a load of bull.

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« Reply #1 on: 20 June 2002, 16:32:00 pm »

Well being a short, chunky, mesomorphic Chinese - I don't look anything like my tall, Aryan, Teutonic tree of a boyfriend.  Nor does he resemble either of my parents. So opposites do attract and this rule is poppycock.

However I did notice that Arnold Schwazenegger and Maria Shriver do look  very similar. So perhaps this rule does apply on occassion.

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« Reply #2 on: 20 June 2002, 18:15:00 pm »

All depends on what kind of 'mirroring' each person is consciously or unconsciously questing for. Some people are not particularly visually driven, but instead for example may be more responsive to a voice or an emotional tension/dynamic that is evocative of a parental or significant early figure in their lives. Where is this bit of research anyway - could you point us to it? It would be good to be able to see what kind of sample group that responded and how the experiment was set up etc. Thanks, if you can.
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« Reply #3 on: 21 June 2002, 14:19:00 pm »

Bluemousemonkey - I read it in an article in Discover magazine. Should be reliable. Further details of the sample group were not mentioned.

The link is http://www.discover.com/july_02/gthere.html?article=news_girl.html

Or you can go to www.discover.com

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« Reply #4 on: 21 June 2002, 18:02:00 pm »

Thanks New Kid. I went to St. Andrews University website and ended up taking a look at this. You might tbe interested or amused:  http://www.bbc.co.uk/science/theexperiment/  
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« Reply #5 on: 24 June 2002, 15:21:00 pm »

Interesting theory - there may be some truth in it, but while you may be more likely to find someone who mirrors your image physically attractive, I don't suppose it would necessarily lead to your being more likely to choose him / her as your partner. I would have thought that you are more likely to choose someone completely different to enhance the gene pool.

Speaking as someone whose ex boyfriends look nothing at all like anyone I ever knew from my childhood, much less my parents (exes were caucasian males, my true love Hispanic, vs my 100% Chinese parentage), I would say that the theory does not apply to me, at least. Instead I wonder how much your upbringing and background has to do with your choice of partners? My sister and I grew up reading Western classical romance novels (sigh, Jane Austen) and drooling over Western pop / movie stars...and for some reason or other, we rarely dated Asian men.

Hmmm?

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