This expat locals dating thing

[Norie]

Burbage,good to see you although didn't talk at all.

Whimper are those who register without email addys,eh Bruno??  

[Harry]

Burbage & others - Just read this and it makes loads of sense, add age groups (unmarried/on your same wave length) to the issue and your choice will narrow further.   I'm excluding the exceptions to the rule from this point.

On the flip side, it can be easier at times as you have a chance to meet people via the expat board (not just in bars/clubs) - something most of us don't get as much chance to do back in our mother countries.

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[Ceirbh]

Burbage i'll be heading down around 9ish..u can call me on 98314583 if i'm not already dancing on the bar when u get there!! rarhhhh!!!!

[ansy]

well done Burbage!  an entire thread without once mentioning the tiger...  

[carolyn]

Nice thread to read without the usual vicious, flaming posts      

[kes]

Singapore is what my friend would call 'slim pickings.'  It sounds awful but its true.

[london babe]

as far as meeting single guys, ive never lived anywhere where its so easy to meet people.....wether they are suitable 'relationship' material is another matter.
the problem with this place is its so transient..............

[canlah]

Burbage

If you adopt a shotgun method, you definitely can find the women.  Try those match making websites where you can search by several criteria such as location and ethnicity.

[Smiling Green Eyes]

I have to say that you are all scaring the pants off me! I will move to Singapore in June. I am Irish, lived in London for 5 years (hard to meet people), Germany for 3 years (slim pickings too), and now Singapore! With all the people of both sexes on this board surely there must be some kind of resolution to this problem of Western males wanting to meet Western females....Any if there isn't now can we get is sorted for when I get there?!!

[kes]

A quick note before I rush off to my pow wow.  I had a major reservation about coming back to Singapore (my parents live here).  No surprise this reservation had to do with dating.  

I could have married after college but it would have been for the wrong reasons (ie marrying for the sake of marrying).  I moved to the East Coast and started my Master's degree.  Philadelphia isn't exactly a place for singles, heck it was voted the worst city for singles in the US.  It's like San Francisco where it is a heterosexual nightmare.  So I have been painfully single for 4 years    

Coming to Singapore, I had reservation about finding people that I can relate to.  I think that being able to relate to someone who has similar experiences and/or background is so important in any type of relationship whether it is friendship, or looking for a partner kind of thing.  It gets more difficult when we are older and in a place where there is an extremely small pool of people that might share a similar background or experience.  

That is how friends and relationships are formed, through similar experience and/or background.  It's how one can relate to another.  I mean we can't relate 100% to a person.

The weird thing is sometimes, people just click regardless of anything I have stated above.  My brother is Chinese and his wife is Dutch.  They met when they were 13 in UWCSEA.  They have been together for 13 years.  There must be something to make it work for that long right?

So I think the attitude that I hope to adopt if I am going to be here for the next 2 years is to meet people and hey, if I'm lucky and meet some guy whom I can just relate to on some deep level (I know this sound so corny)then great.  Then I probably have to revise my 3 year plan!        

Well, the pow wow awaits!

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[aussiegirl_insg]

I must say I have been here for 9 months and not ventured out much bar Harry's & Penny Black, oh went to JJ Mahoney's once and the Brahaus.

So where do you guys all go?

[interloper]

Interesting takes on the "local dating thang" - truth is some people need to get over the he/she thing & start looking at themselves.

Yes S'pore is small - but the pool of people can be relatively liquid considering the transient (LB - prudent comment) nature of the populus here.

So the question will then be:
Once i have a partner will he/she "stick" around - this may also work in the favour of the 'local' whereby it gives them an opportunity to leave Spore - whether for good or for a while.

It's a licorice of all-sorts here folks - so dip in & see what you come out holding!

ta
'loper

[xcite]

Just came accross this topic ... looks like we have to start a single club in S'pore. Any suggestions where the first round should take place?

[Purrfect Purrson]

Doug's seems to be a nice place to meet, for a start. BTW, I have some nice single girl acquaintances who would like to meet similarly nice men socially but are kind of shy (possibly I would be too, if I were them, as the first conclusion seems to be, 'oh she's playing SPG'). Maybe they'll drop in at Scrabble night one Friday soon.

Aside: It's true, when I mentioned once to (local) colleagues that I was heading over to Doug's for Scrabble - organised via the expat message board - one of them said, "Awww, you're doing the SPG thing!" Well, now... I'm an Indian expat, can't possibly see myself as an SPG and you wouldn't either if you saw me!  

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Inertia will prevail. - Purr.

[canlah]

PP

I'm not sure you are getting the gist of the originator's post.  Doubt he's into Asian expats, he's more interested in people from his own culture.