i once had to do everything for my bf...chinese Singporean....which ALSO including shelling prawns...(BIG PAMPER A$$)...but then i did it out of love but it got fruastrating to the part that he was expecting me to do it...and many other things as well....(clean his bloody place...pack his clothes...get his towel, undies, socks and shoes)...DUH!..wah lau been there done that....free maid and lover!!!and i didn't get anything in return but more expectations....yawn....glad that i gave him a kite....
I will shell willingly for any men who does not expect it to be done....in fact the other day i was shelling pistachios for a male friend (also Chinese Sporean) in Siam SC until he asked it was alright and he could do it himself..and told me to stop ruining my nails....i was bored so i was shelling and i like his attitude....said he could do it himself....love to date him .. 
so i say....if the local men don't expect it so much (and i know there are still some out there, not all are dead) maybe the local women would do it more out of willingness of their love than to prove something like we 'love' him or whatever...
remember ..sporean ladies are socialized and schooled to work in the public sphere and not to serve the men (father, bro, husband) in their household in the private sphere.
i give my dad massages and iron everybody's clothes in the family but then i do it out of love not becos they expect me to. so those men in Sumiko's Tan article should wake up their bloody idea and learn from their nicer local counterparts.....and not force us to look from the other islands....
i know there are still the nice guys around....2 way give and take with their women.....hope they multiply...
[This message has been edited by princessb (edited 22-02-2002).]
