Sorry, but I can't let that last post pass. Tribal honor killings are reflective of an overall cultural repression of women which can be seen in their *denial* of representative rights not as a *result* thereof. In certain tribal areas, if my research is correct, women were not granted the franchise in Pakistan until 1996 -- and even then, certain jirga have ruled that female voting is un-Islamic, in one case holding that the house anybody permitting women to vote should be burned down(!). Thats not to say that the current government is not doing a good thing by tackling that nonsense, but it is manifestly NOT the case that democracy CAUSES the problem -- cultural attitudes repressing participation do.
As to India, Im afraid that you are incorrect to say that democracy has done nothing for society. The majority of Indians, based on polling, support democratic processes. Reservation politics since the Mandal report has led to a marked increase in lower-caste entry into educational and civil service opportunities. Certain groups remain, of course, dirt poor, but they are beginning to assert their power in numbers to demand a piece of the pie long denied them. Finally, to assert that there has been no middle class growth in India since 1947 is, quite frankly, bizarre.
To conclude, nobody is trying to "cram democracy down the throat" of anybody -- well, Bush and co are, but I for the record don't agree with that approach. On the other hand, if China or any other country wants "international respect and dignity" then it ought to treat its citizens with "respect and dignity". Transition doesn't have to happen overnight, and democracy in Asia doesn't have to look like it does in the West, but treating your own people like morons in the name of avoiding "chaos" doesn't merit much respect and, over the long term, is likely to lead to even greater chaos (witness the historic power transitions in China to date -- not particularly bloodless, no?).
Whew, ok now am done.