divorce support

[bobo]

anyone got any ideas about how to get thru divorce mentally and legally?  Would love some advice.
Thanks

[Me too]

I am also going through it at the moment - I am the victim of it all and my life has been in turmoil since.  I suggest some counselling - try SACAC at American club, or AWARE (a womens awareness group) - this has been extremely useful.  It is difficult at times, but try to think clearly and look after your health - this is most important. Try to surround yourself with friends and people that love you - this will keep you strong.  Keep positive and strong, and you may not know it now, but it's God's will and it is happening for a reason - you will grow so much after going through it all. I wish you well.

[bobo]

Many thanks for the advice.  This only happened a few days ago out of the blue.  He has run off with the marriage papers so he can get a quick divorce and marry his immigrant mistress in the UK.  I am devastated and cannnot face anyone.  I had no idea he did not care for me.  I think I will go to church and pray for his soul.

Thank you again

[Jo]

Hi

Had been thru that agonising separation and divorce for the last 3 years..am now happily re-married just a month ago but have a few months back, set up a little support group of friends who have or are going thru divorce or separation.  Write me an email and I could try to hold your hand thru it all.  And when the group meets again next week or so, I will give u a call.

I know how it is...and I think thruout the experience, I found who my real friends were...I suggest what's best is to talk about it continuously and getit out of your system...I am here....u can email me anytime ok?

[bobo]

Many thanks, Jo.  I hope you got my email message.  If not, please tell me and I will try again. At this stage I do not want anyone to know who I am as I am too ashamed to face anyone.

Thank you again

[happy now]

hi bobo
i felt so sad on reading your posting and am sorry for what you are going through.  Don't feel ashamed of yourself - there are many factors involved. I went through a divorce 3 years ago - but am now happily re-married.  E-mail me at kathl99@hotmail.com if you need support or just someone to vent your feelings to - that is often the best way to clear your mind and feelings.  

[mister]

Bobo, I am sorry to hear of your situation.
However, pls do not feel ashamed.  Your friends (and acquaintances) with whom you share your situation will not blame you - and hopefully, will try to help you.  I think you will find some very good new friends.

Gombatte!

[shambles]

Hi Bobo,
I am so sorry ... my sister is in a similar situation and has decided to relocate to Singapore with her son. It is a difficult time for her, having to start a new life, a new job and help her son adjust with the change, as is for you.

You must not go through this alone, if it's too painful to speak to your friends or family right now, please accept the help extended to you from this message board. What's given my sister strength during this bad period, is the understanding and support she's had from the family. Don't do this alone.

For your legal position:
You can go to the Law Society's site for information on divorce in Singapore: http://www.lawsoc.org.sg/awareness/divorce.html

Good luck!

[bobo]

Thank you all for replying.  Each day is getting slightly better.  Started eating a bit now. I value all of your advice.  It has helped me a lot.  Will let you know how I get on.

God will take you to heaven

[same boat]

I can understand clearly what u have been going through but this is not the end of the world .There must be some solution .Why donot u talk to him and discuss about it because if he is really going to leave u then there is nothing else u can do .Try contacting u lawyer so u can get a quick divorce and get out of it as soon as possible.Try to get as much as possible from him so u can support urself and ur family. Iam sure once it is over u will be able to start ur  life all over again and better .
best of luck

[bobo]

Hi there.

Thank you again for your advice.  I am slowly starting my life again without my husband.  I could not have done it without the support of all.

Thank you