Over or over-reacting??

[(over)reacting]

A peculiar situation took place some time back.

I had an argument with a close friend, and he actually hit me....like a slap across my face and a couple of punches.

Is it time to end the friendship or can I put it aside and move on, thinking of it as an aberration? Is it over or am I over-reacting?

I am a little confused ....any suggestions?

[Suggestion]

It's called Mental Health Counseling.

[San Antonio Rose]

Hmmm, here's a bit of wisdom.  If someone hits you, it means they DON'T LIKE YOU.  Time to make a new friend.

[Dr. Ruth]

Are you male or female?

If female, end the friendship now and don't look back.

If male, why didn't you punch back? Then you could have laughed it off and gone for some beers. A previous poster suggested that his hitting you implies he doesn't like you. I suggest the opposite...he may really, really like you and just have trouble expressing it well. And that, possibly, you enjoy being hit.

[bignono]

Male or female, hitting/ aggression is not the way forward in this day and age. If he hasn't apologised I'd never speak to him again.

[depends]

What were you arguing about?

[I hope]

How long ago did this act occur?  Has he done it since?  Were you physical with him?  Did he get help?

[(over) reacting]

Hi All...thanks for your comments.

So I guess the consensus is that it is over...just as I had thought I should do. I did not think it makes sense to discuss this with people that I know, since they'd get hassled I feel!!

I am also a guy. No, I did not stoop to that level... to retaliate physically.  No he did not apologise, not sincerely at any rate.

Feels bad to end the friendship, but sometimes, its for the best.

Thanks again ....

[2 sides]

So why did he hit you in the first place?

Each and every person can be challenged to the extent that an instant physical reaction is the result, but that does not automatically mean the one who reacts is the one to blame.

[Buddha himself]

A very good friend of mine took a swing at me when we were both a bit the worse the wear for beers, but despite being a sometimes aggressive/abrasive drunk he can't fight for shit. I beat the crap out of him then patched him up and we are still very good mates. It certainly has never even come close to happening again.

You should have a word with your friend about it.

[not nice]

its 1 thing if you are both knocking eachother around then make up. i see best friends and brothers do that to eachother all the time.

op describes something different. op didnt fight back, op is a bit shocked and wondering if it was okay? they were having a disagreement and the other guy couldnt handle it so took a swing. that does not sound very nice.

yes budda you sound so hot and manly but op did the right thing by not hitting back.

[Buddha himself]

yes budda you sound so hot and manly but op did the right thing by not hitting back.

Nothing to do with being hot or manly -- which I am -- rather it's to do with dealing with someone for whom reason has already lost its course. And yes, I agree the OP did the right thing by not hitting back, but he has described entirely different circumstances.

I still suggest he should speak to his friend. A good mate is a good mate -- even if they (we) act like dicks at times.

[mirror]

Well online tiger, I'd suggest you both take some counseling and join the AA, alcohol seems to be a no-go for you?