Maid Returned from Day Off Drunk

[Man Law]

Wife came home drunk this morning at about 3am.  She banged the door noisily, waking me up, puked in the toilet and crashed on the bed next to me in her smelly party girl clothes and vomit breath.

She couldn't get up this morning to give the kids breakfast so I had to do it. She also missed taking my son to a birthday party today and I had to do that too. Not only that I had to watch telly with them last night, do the baths, read them stories and put them to bed.

Based on this one time I am thinking she might be a lousy wife and mother.  Not sure I can trust her to raise my kids.

I work all week and her job is to take care of things at home. I am thinking about firing her.  What do you all think?

[This message has been edited by Man Law (edited 09-12-2006).]

[Australian mum]

To Man Law

...Giggle...

No, I think you should give her a good spanking...

[Man Law]

"No, I think you should give her a good spanking..."

Ok, that's another direction I'm kinda liking. Could involve L&F (leather and feathers) and just might make me forgive her...

[what are you asking?]

You need to decide if you want to keep her or not.  Like others said, you sound like you don't really want to keep her, and if that's the case, then change maids.

If that is not the case, then DO let her know your expectations for the house.  You also seem to be reasonably trying to keep in mind that your maid may already have a full plate, and inadequate rest.  If she is tending to a toddler all day AND night, and only getting 2 days off a month...that does seem a bit much for one person.  Many mothers have a hard time with that schedule, for sure.

I would suggest giving her every sunday off, and the parents taking over night duty for the baby, if possible.  

[Joseph27]

I love these self righteous assholes who continue to post here in criticism of anyone who dares to hire a maid.  

She got drunk on an off day - if you gave her strict instructions not to ever consumer alcohol in your house then you do have some reason to be upset about this episode but its not that dramatic.  It is irresponsible but forgivable to come back drunk once - but its a once off - say its unnacceptible so it never happens again.  If it does piss her off.  

If she is lazy and doesnt do her work like the rest of the post indicates then sack her but use that as the excuse.  Give her a chance - if she f**ks up then say bye bye at Changhi

[Bing Bong 27]

But of course, di ba... Filipinos always stick up for each other...

OP, if she were my maid she would have been transferred out ASAP. Let someone else deal with the after effects of her alco adventures

[Bdoggg]

Snoopdog its not one day off a week its one day off every other week. OMG 1 day off in 14 please. I would be hitting the bottle hard. She is probably at the maids day disco and some greasy men are buying her booze but that is another story. You know in HK its the law to give maids 1 day off a week and that is legally a full 24 hour day!

[scarymoo]

don't people give their maid the whole day off?  Just moved here and our maid has from about 7pm (unless needed for babysitting) on the Sat night till 12am on the Sunday night.  I assumed this would be the usual. What do others do?

[scarymoo]

my previous post reads a bit off.  Mean from Sat 7pm til Monday 7am.  We've asked her to be home by Sun midnight so we know she's home safe.

[So Where]

So where exactly do you suppose she will be between 7pm Saturday and 12 midnight Sunday? If the police pick her up it will be interesting since she is not allowed to stay anywhere other than your house. The rules here are strict, You would be well served to learn them.

[Scanty]

She stays in our house Sat night and leaves in the morning.  She is home by midnight on the Sunday so she is never out overnight.  She can go out whenever as long as home for 12am.

[no_sympathy]

Take care of your kid will you or quit crying.  Or...throw the maid out the window for being a human being with foibles and not a slave.

Such a sense of entitlement.  Have you not heard that if you want something done right, do it yourself?

Why don't you hire and bring over a maid from your home country?  Too expensive for exploitation?  Oh, I'm soooo sorry.

Maybe the excessive drinking is from trying to get relief from your overbearing lordship.  
To forgive is divine.  To be so self righteous is to be damned.  You'll never be satisfied.  The hardest kind of service to get is one that satisfies your little one.  The others, you can cover for, so get over it and treat the maid like a human with human foibles.

[boring NZ drunk]

If some of you  find this board has allegedly deteriorated why don't you go the sewing circle where you belong and dispense advice and common sense which is what it is - common?

[water]

why dont you confront her to find out if it was a one time thing. Did she get drunk on purpose or was it a mistake? If she did it intentionally then I would be scared because even if she is on her day off she could come home and endanger you or your baby in her drunken state...

[DragonLass]

Having watched how the maids work so very hard here, especally over this last 'festive season' (It certainly wasn't for them!) I wonder if this poor Lass has some problem which she simply couldn't handle and someone gave her a drink (or 2) and it made her drunk. The Asian Physiology does not normally tolerate alcohol well at all. Quite frankly if I had been a maid working here I would also have got blotto to escape whatever it was that was bothering me.