Thank you MG for your response and to the other poster about Dr Biswas.
I'm actually so afraid of pushing out this baby that I plan to have a caesarian. Do you think the doctors at NUH would support me with that?
MG - would I need to choose my doctor carefully for caesarian? thank you
Think very carefully about this decision. Believe me, all first time mothers are scared about the birth, but there are pain relieving options available. Having a C-section can also be a traumatic experience and you will take longer to recover afterwards. Also it is a far bigger shock to your baby to be suddenly wrenched from the womb into an operating theatre environment, rather than pushing through the vagina and arriving in the world as nature intended - especially if your birthing room has the option of dimmed lighting.
Of course, if there are medical reasons for it, then C-section might be the most prudent option, but if it's just a case of your own fear, try to face up to it, prepare well for the birth through pre-natal yoga classes and get support from your partner and/or a qualified birth assistant (doula).
Breathe deep and enjoy
I agree with Rosie- sort of.
Not the la la hippy dimmed lighting stuff, but about the recovery afterwards.
If this is your first baby then the advantages of a rapid recovery far outweigh any fear you have about the pushing. Have a frank chat with someone who has had a c-section, someone who will be totally honest about the recovery.
If you push the baby out, depending on how the birth has gone (i.e. whether or not you've had an epidural) you will be up and about mere hours after the birth and will be more comfortable moving, lifting and feeding your new baby.