10 things I don't like seeing maids doing

[how on earth]

Did a thread about maids turn into a fat expat discussion. Be onto singaporean driving standards next. Oops.

[Inevitably]

most of the maid threads inevitably turn into a fat expat thread. Must be the same posters trolling, waiting for any chance to same the same thing time and again.

[simplke]

If there weren't so many overweight expat women it wouldn't be an issue

[Just one thing ...]

A bit harsh considering all the overweight ex-pat males you see in this town .. 

[Old Mike]

A bit harsh considering all the overweight ex-pat males you see in this town

The secret to getting a hot, young wife is to be rich and seriously fat.
She thinks she can shag you to death in short order and collect.
What a way to go.   

[Just one thing]

OM, it just goes to show that men have it made in this part of the world    give me the west any day, better men with more class 

[and]

less temptation in the west perhaps?

[to op]

I don't like:

Maids hanging out of windows cleaning stuff.

Maid sleeping on a cardboard box in the kitchen.

Idiots who take the maid to a restaurant and give them the kids leftovers.

Dumbass retards who look down on people who aren't as saintly as you are.

[head for heights]

Has anyone actually met a maid who has to sleep in the kitchen?  I've heard the rumours but most people I know who have maids have a maid's room out the back somewhere (unless it happens in HDBs which maybe don't have a maid's room)

I've seen a woman standing on a ledge on what must have been the 16-18th floor of a Tanjong Rhu condo cleaning windows - whether she was a maid or not I couldn't say, but it looked bloody dangerous (it was Tanjong Ria) and I have seen maids at the hawker centre looking like they're not eating when everyone else is - I hate that - they take her to look after their badly behaved children and they all sit around gossiping while she runs around after the kids!

[Actually]

If I was in charge of taking care of children and the whole family went out to eat and I was required to look after, feed etc the children while they enjoyed their meal, then I certainly wouldn't want to be served at the table with them. Let me eat later, at home, when I can make something nice and eat my meal in peace, thank you.

[EXPAT WIFE]

How many expat men here with their wives and children actually employ a maid when their wife is not working?
 I ask this because as an expat wife who has brought up two children here for 18 years without the help of a maid i am a bit puzzled why you need a maid when your wife/partner is not working. Have heard all the bullshit from wives before about expanding their education,ect. It is all b crap as most of them spend their time directing their maids and letting them carry the heavy shopping whilst they just saunter onto the next shopping centrey
I am not judging you at all, but very curious as to why a maid is needed when one parent is home all day.
My story is that I arrived here 18 years ago with two children. One 13 years old and the other child was 3 years old. i have never needed a maid because i was not working. Now that both my children are adults and have done very well being brought up without the help of a maid i wonder why some expat husbands cater to their wives and employ a maid to look after their children while your wives contribute sod all to the marriage.
So to all expat husbands.... question what your partner does all day when you are at work..

[trinny tummny tuck]

too right about all the fat, overweight  men here. they are very overweight, yet expect wives to stay trim.... they are lazy and expect wives to do all the work (sexually) lazy fat bastards are all overweight husbands..... get em on a diet quick because they are having a laugh if they think only their wives/partners have gained weight. Well, this is to all husbands here.... treat your wife in the correct manner then there will be no need for her to tell people how fat you have become (especially around your stomache)
Yep, there are an awful lot of expat men here who have let themselves go. Big guts and flabby arses...... yuk, women do not want this, yet we have to put up with it day after day,....

[maidinmanhatten]

Expat Wife.

Your post is a little aggressive, however you do have a point. I am a full time SAHM and I have 2 under 5. One of my children goes to school until 2pm, the other does not. I do have a maid, however she has a lot of spare time because I do a lot of things myself. Her duties with my children are limited to washing and ironing her clothes and the occasional babysitting when they are asleep at night (about twice a month). I am pretty busy with my boys even though I do not have to do any cleaning, ironing or washing up. If I didn't have a maid I wouldn't have the time to cook decent food and I wouldn't be able to go to the places and have as much fun as we have. That said, I will be asking my maid to leave at Christmas when we move house because I do not think we have enough work for her to do and we do not like having a maid live with us and we do not treat her as part of the family. As a result, we have a maid with a permanent sulky face.

Call me lazy but I do not want to be washing, ironing and cleaning when I could be down the pool with my sons or at the zoo with them. We have such a cool time that I do not want to end up being martyr mom with a miserable gob the whole time. I will get part time help to pick up the slack. Another thing I tell myself is that I could save over 1K a month by doing it myself.

I do agree with you a bit though. It does look a bit slack, having a maid and not working.

[Babysitting - good luck]

Expat Wife.

Your post is a little aggressive, however you do have a point. I am a full time SAHM and I have 2 under 5. One of my children goes to school until 2pm, the other does not. I do have a maid, however she has a lot of spare time because I do a lot of things myself. Her duties with my children are limited to washing and ironing her clothes and the occasional babysitting when they are asleep at night (about twice a month). I am pretty busy with my boys even though I do not have to do any cleaning, ironing or washing up. If I didn't have a maid I wouldn't have the time to cook decent food and I wouldn't be able to go to the places and have as much fun as we have. That said, I will be asking my maid to leave at Christmas when we move house because I do not think we have enough work for her to do and we do not like having a maid live with us and we do not treat her as part of the family. As a result, we have a maid with a permanent sulky face.

Call me lazy but I do not want to be washing, ironing and cleaning when I could be down the pool with my sons or at the zoo with them. We have such a cool time that I do not want to end up being martyr mom with a miserable gob the whole time. I will get part time help to pick up the slack. Another thing I tell myself is that I could save over 1K a month by doing it myself.

I do agree with you a bit though. It does look a bit slack, having a maid and not working.

Good luck finding babysitting after you let your maid go. Honestly, the lack of willing and able babysitters is probably the main reason www keep a live-in maid (ours has a lot of time with nothing to do - good, easy life for her though). Where I come from it's generally easy to find teenagers who want to babysit to earn extra money - here they must not need the money because in my 6 plus years here, I've only met about 2 teens who were interested in babysitting.

[Baby Sitters Club]

Ironically most teenagers are discouraged from trying to find baby-sitting jobs here as the assumption is that everybody has a maid!  Perhaps some enterprising young teens could start a baby-sitters club and then all maid dramas are a thing of the past.