Life after divorce

[onlyliveonce]

Is there really any opportunity for single older ladies to find a long term patner in Singapore ? I am reliabley informed by several single men, that our chances are severley limited due to competition of single, younger, er more willing, ladies. I cannot believe this is the case. Surely there are older men out there who would be at least a touch interested ? Am I being niave ?

[jalanperak]

I don't know that you're being naive, but you do have to accept certain realities about the dating situation here. One is that while the number of desirable partners goes down for both sexes as we get older, it doesn't go down as quickly for men. One reason is that it's culturally more acceptable for a man to be 10~15 years older than his partner, which automatically gives men a greater number of potential partners. Another is, as you point out, is that some men are attracted to the siren song of the SPG (and related species), and there isn't a male equivalent for older women (at least, not that I know of).

There is a potential downside to the younger woman, however.  Let's take a scenario of a divorced 45 year old male, who has grown or nearly grown children from his previous marriage, and who doesn't want more children. It's likely that a 40 year old woman here might not want children, but highly unlikely that a 30 year old would.

[Bagshot, Col]

Is there really any opportunity for single older ladies to find a long term patner in Singapore ? I am reliabley informed by several single men, that our chances are severley limited due to competition of single, younger, er more willing, ladies. I cannot believe this is the case. Surely there are older men out there who would be at least a touch interested ? Am I being niave ?

Absolutely not my dear.
And the memsahib is winging her way to London as we communicate. 
Did you mention your age?

[chitown]

Is there really any opportunity for single older ladies to find a long term patner in Singapore ? I am reliabley informed by several single men, that our chances are severley limited due to competition of single, younger, er more willing, ladies. I cannot believe this is the case. Surely there are older men out there who would be at least a touch interested ? Am I being niave ?

In general, I would think that the answer depends on the woman, including her looks, her personality, her opportunities to readily meet the type of men who would be interested in her, etc.  But I'm interpreting the question as "should a single older woman even try to find such a man in Singapore?"   The answer to that question has to be yes.

[CarlisleInSg]

I don't think there's a high percentage chance that you'll be able to find another suitable partner after a divorce. It's true though that you might find it harder to date as you get older. However, If for example you're already 40 yrs old but look like your 10 years younger, that would definitely be a big plus.  So don't loose hope, just work on your appearance and your life. I'm sure everything will work out for you. Stay happy.