To iiop: I feel offended of your remarks. It is necessity because I am taking more responsibilities outside home. I am taking the opportunity of having a helper or else I would not have this chance to do all these things of where I am. Where I come from, we rely on child care centres and we have relatives we can call on any time we needed them to look after our kids. Our situation as a foreigner is different to locals here where they can rely on their in-laws, relatives, parents, etc. We do not have that “luxury” like that; hence having a helper becomes a necessity here. I am doing all the things that I want to do long time ago—taking EXCO role (volunteer) , keeping up professional developments, volunteer as a teacher to a local Christian community, former volunteer to provide financial advices for free to Singaporean communities, regular get together with other mums for the sake of my little child and for myself, and among other things. I am sure I am not the only expat wife who is doing these all these things. Hence you should not make a harsh judgment.
To everyone who gives all these advices, I will consider all of them and will come up to final decision.
To but: We are thinking that her stay out accommodation should be closed to our residence where she can either walk or taking a bus for less than 10 minutes.
To house: I cannot wait to finish our lease and find a place like what you’d suggested. I will definitely make that rule that she should not be allowed to be in our lounge room, kitchen, etc after the certain time , that she should finish all her household chores in that time, eaten her dinner, and ready to go to her room with her own tv and comfortable bedroom.
To temp 22: Our current resident is not equip for our family’s privacy. There is a helper’s bathroom, cooking area but the maid’s room we turn it into storage room. Our current place has only 3 rooms. My 2 children used to share one bedroom (double deck bed or bunker) and our former helper has her own bedroom which was the guest room. When she transferred to another employer, the guest room turned into kid’s room as we’d introduce to our young kids to sleep separately (independence).
I thank you for all your advices and suggestions except that sarcastic remark from iiop.