single woman moving to singapore - how's the dating scene?

[envi123]

I am a single american woman, 27, tall and attractive (if i dare say so myself...) usually pretty involved in work but love to go out to eat and maybe dancing once a week. I receive plenty of attention in US but I am about to move to Singapore and am wondering about the dating scene (what kind of women do men prefer in singapore)?

I enjoy flirting from time to time though I am the type of a woman that likes to make friends first and take things slow... Without knowing anything first hand and just reading the responses to some topic on this board, there is something that alarms me:

-Are single white Western (US, European) females relatively invisible to the local or expat men? It seems, from reading the topics, that men prefer "easy" local girls.

I am debating between accepting a position in Singapore for just 2-3 years or maybe more permanently. But the dating scene is important to me! I don't mind not dating as much - work usually consumes most of my time anyway but I'd hate to give up the first-date butterflies for good! I'm too young for that!

Please enlighten me and, also, let me know what are some good bars restaurants that expats can go to to meet other like-minded expats to hang out

Thanks!!!

[anon]

I am a single american woman, 27, tall and very attractive (if i dare say so myself...) usually pretty involved in work but love to go out to eat and maybe dancing once a week. I receive plenty of attention in US but I am about to move to Singapore and am wondering about the dating scene (what kind of women do men prefer in singapore)?

I enjoy male attention and flirtations from time to time though I am the type of a woman that likes to make friends first and take things slow... Without knowing anything first hand and just reading the responses to some topic on this board, there is something that alarms me:

-Are single white Western (US, European) females relatively invisible to the local or expat men? It seems, from reading the topics, that men prefer "easy" local girls.

I am debating between accepting a position in Singapore for just 2-3 years or maybe more permanently. But the dating scene is important to me! I don't mind not dating as much - work usually consumes most of my time anyway but I'd hate to give up the first-date butterflies for good! I'm too young for that!

Please enlighten me and, also, let me know what are some good bars restaurants that expats can go to to meet other like-minded expats to hang out

Thanks!!!

Unless you put out like crazy and fawn over caucasian men you don't stand a chance

[envi123]

Seriously?

So are sexually transmitted diseases pretty common here then?

[Not another one]

Stay in the States, you sound so full of yourself it is laughable.

[envi123]

Nope, not full of myself. Just voicing my concerns without sugar-coating the subject or what I want. But thanks for the unnecessary insult!

[Blaze]

OP, don't worry I think attractive western ladies will always get a lot of attention here. One reason being that there are so few of them

And btw, not all local girls are 'easy' and STDs are not a bigger problem here than other countries. Just wanted to let you know...

I think your main question was whether you should stay 2 to 3 years or more permanently. I guess it's safe to say after 3 years you wouldn't mind moving somewhere else, no matter how good/bad the dating scene here is! 

[journo?]

 his po st is so immature and ignorant, it's a bit scary and comes off as a journalist fishing for information on the next insightful article about expats.  What kind of women do men in Singapore prefer?  Seriously?

[ThereBeDragons]

Seriously?

So are sexually transmitted diseases pretty common here then?

Care to explain the logic behind your assertion?  So if a caucasian woman needs to put out in order to get dates, there is a high incidence of STDs? How does that make any sense?

The accepted view is that it is harder for western women to get dates here than in the west. A lot of guys see it as being good for women to not have things so easy for a change

[big hoss]

my experience is that the local girls aren't particularly easy, but they pursue foreign white men aggressively. many, dare i say all, american white girls are used to being pursued, entertained, wined and dined. This is much less so with many (not all) asian girls who will pursue men and be attentative and subservient during the dating game.

many men enjoy the whole notion of not dating an equal but someone who is essentially subservient to the man, going with many if not all of his wishes and whims. The classical stereotype (which i have observed plenty of times myself) s the expat man who ditches his family and gets remarried to the twenty year younger secretary. Happens all the time, and those secretaries are on a mission, learns everything about the man and pursues the hunt with a passion.

so yes, i think it will be harder to date but not impossible. you have to learn how to pursue what is interesting to you, and you probably have to be a bit more agressive in your pursuits of what you like.

good luck!

[This]

This post sounds like another windup to get a load of rubbish responses. Attractive people (mentally & physically) have no issues anywhere.

[CarlisleInSg]

White ladies are always attractive anywhere else in the world.  I guess, being that easy going and happy-go-lucky type of person, I'm sure you'll meet lots of people.

[envi123]

I don't know I am just feeling a little down about this whole notion of a woman "being subservient to a man during dating". To each their own, I guess... but I just can't, for the life of me, see myself changing who I am just to date someone. I have always been incredibly independent.

Would I be better off dating someone who has recently moved here as well from a Western country, as to have some sort of semblance of "western-type" dating? In other words, I do not like chasing after a guy, nor do I necessarily need a guy chasing after me - my preference is for an equally affectionate relationship, where I don't feel like I am bending over backwards to get a guy...

[um..]

At 27, seriously focus on your career, not the singapore social scene.

Yes you can get dates here. But remember it's a very transient place..

I don't think this should be something too important at your age.

Be yourself, don't change for anyone. -Unless of course you have a really hideous personality that you need to work on:-)

Out of curiosity, what is the dating scene process in america?
 

[Kam,al]

If you think you are going to bring over your racial prejudices and other sterotypical behaviour here, you will not last long.  

[Oh boy...]

You seem obsessed with dating, wonder why...

There was just another post going on for weeks now about singles dating in SIngapore. Why don't you read that first? Same answers. it is getting old.