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« on: 19 October 2011, 8:32:53 am » |
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I just planned a great party for my 5 year and as with other parties I have planned to the nth degree and which have been great, I always feel so down afterwards - going over everything - wish I'd had more time to speak with him or her, provided more food (even if plenty), got more photos, those that helped could have done better ("should have done it myself" feeling) etc - I always find something to dwell on ....
why do party organisers feel so down after a party - and I'm not referring to a hangover - but the 'perfectist' in side in me. Kids were happy, guests were happy, but all I can see is a small detail that may have slipped .....
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« on: 19 October 2011, 8:32:53 am » |
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oh dear oh dear
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« Reply #1 on: 19 October 2011, 9:09:21 am » |
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I think you need to get a job or have something more in your life to worry about. Worrying about how well a 5 year olds birthday party went......
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« Reply #2 on: 19 October 2011, 12:26:56 pm » |
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Get over yourself, that's what you need. Period.
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« Reply #3 on: 19 October 2011, 12:52:52 pm » |
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not just a 5 year old party - all parties I have organised including my wedding ! I want everything to be perfect for everyone!
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« Reply #4 on: 19 October 2011, 13:09:01 pm » |
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Instead of sitting at home self absorbed in how great your party was and it's little imperfection, why not put those obviously great organizational skills and attention to detail to good use by helping out in a charitable organization here. I'm really sick of the pampered princesses here  |
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« Reply #5 on: 19 October 2011, 13:53:59 pm » |
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Hi OP. It's actually a common response for anyone who is immersed in a project. I know actors that have gone through it after a performance. They work so hard leading up to the actual event, that once it's over and the lights fade away, they have a void where the time and energy used to be.
The other comments make an excellent point, the way to overcome it is to get busy on your next project.
What's important is doing something that you feel passionate about. Why not consider work as a professional party planner?
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truly..
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« Reply #6 on: 19 October 2011, 14:36:40 pm » |
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this must be a wind up?
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« Reply #7 on: 19 October 2011, 14:37:14 pm » |
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The PP already said she feels like this after planning every part - even her own wedding - and you suggest she get a job as a party planner - seems like even more stress.
OP, why not fire your maid, look after house and children yourself, and as already suggested look to do some volunteer work. I was going to suggest looking for a job but I think that could well put you in crisis if planning a 5yr olds b'day party has you this down.
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« Reply #8 on: 19 October 2011, 15:28:24 pm » |
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So, if people who do projects that they find exciting and challenging feel down after the hurrah, then it makes sense that they should just avoid doing anything exciting and challenging at all? If it works for you |
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« Reply #9 on: 19 October 2011, 17:08:11 pm » |
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It's called "reactive depression" - depression due to stress of handling situations. This happens soon after a big event that involves planning, answering queries, contacting people, cleaning up, etc. Many brides / grooms mistook their depression and lethargy after the wedding or honeymoon as falling out of love with their partners. The stress and doubts make them think that they have made a mistake in getting married.
I experienced the same thing after I moved overseas. It was what I had always wanted but it involved a lot of administration, tidying up, packing, saying good bye to friends and family, etc. Naturally, I became depressed. I started reading about causes of depression and the reason was there on the list.
Organizers don't realize that planning a party, event, reception, etc is a stressful activity. A healing massage will help you to recover spent energies and put you back on your feet.
OP - being aware of your perfectionistic tendencies is also helpful. You now know that you've got to let it go. You're fretting over tiny, tiny details. I was a perfectionist but not a worrier. I learn to accept the best that I can manage in the time and effort available. There's always a higher level but for now, this will do - tell yourself this.
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« Reply #10 on: 19 October 2011, 22:01:34 pm » |
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Instead of sitting at home self absorbed in how great your party was and it's little imperfection, why not put those obviously great organizational skills and attention to detail to good use by helping out in a charitable organization here. I'm really sick of the pampered princesses here You don't have to be pampered to have a party. |
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