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« on: 02 November 2011, 21:42:04 pm » |
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Expecting first child here in Singapore. I have a different surname to my husband. Will the baby HAVE to take the father's surname, or will we be permitted to use my surname for the baby on it's birth certificate?
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« on: 02 November 2011, 21:42:04 pm » |
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« Reply #1 on: 03 November 2011, 11:05:21 am » |
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Expecting first child here in Singapore. I have a different surname to my husband. Will the baby HAVE to take the father's surname, or will we be permitted to use my surname for the baby on it's birth certificate?
Why should the child take your surname and not her father's?! You're one ball-breaking, castrating little harlot!
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« Reply #2 on: 03 November 2011, 15:51:41 pm » |
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Expecting first child here in Singapore. I have a different surname to my husband. Will the baby HAVE to take the father's surname, or will we be permitted to use my surname for the baby on it's birth certificate?
This is a serious reply. In Singapore, only children of unwed mothers, children of mistresses, or children whose fathers are unknown take the mother's surname.
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« Reply #3 on: 03 November 2011, 17:47:13 pm » |
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I have 2 friends (expats who've both left Singapore since) who've given their children the mother's surname. Both sets married, still happily married, and in agreement that the mother's surname was their preferred name. Ignore the chauvinist dinosaurs...
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« Reply #4 on: 03 November 2011, 21:23:20 pm » |
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i havent got a surname. one of my colleagues put her surnmae for her daughter instead of her husband's. Mind you, they're very much together. just their preference
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« Reply #5 on: 03 November 2011, 21:56:10 pm » |
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It's amazing how automatically some people the world over would address a woman (Ms Green) as Mrs Black once she gets married.
Or when her child enters school and is under the Black name. Teachers, doctor's offices, you name it ... phone messages will come addressing mum as Mrs Black.
In many cases, unless one insists, it seems like a woman loses that identity she's held for all of X years, once she crosses into being a mother.
Nothing wrong with a child adding both his/her mother ans father's names onto his/her name. Afterall it took two to create the child!
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« Reply #6 on: 04 November 2011, 0:13:44 am » |
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thanks for the serious replies! We have a very good reason for the baby to take my surname and not its father's.
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« Reply #7 on: 04 November 2011, 11:19:38 am » |
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Expecting first child here in Singapore. I have a different surname to my husband. Will the baby HAVE to take the father's surname, or will we be permitted to use my surname for the baby on it's birth certificate?
Why should the child take your surname and not her father's?! You're one ball-breaking, castrating little harlot! Harsh, unnecessary, and not logical. Why should the child take the husband's name? Actually, you don't even know if the father and the husband are the same. And why does this constitute "ball breaking" and how is she a "harlot"? Your reaction reflects quite poorly on you and makes me sympathetic for any spouse and children you might have.
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« Reply #8 on: 04 November 2011, 11:34:50 am » |
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I have 2 friends (expats who've both left Singapore since) who've given their children the mother's surname. Both sets married, still happily married, and in agreement that the mother's surname was their preferred name. Ignore the chauvinist dinosaurs...
That's because they are expats. Find me any Singapore citizen who takes his/her mother's surname and you will find one whose mother is either unmarried, or a mistress or whose father is unknown.
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« Reply #9 on: 04 November 2011, 12:20:05 pm » |
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thanks for the serious replies! We have a very good reason for the baby to take my surname and not its father's.
is your husband the father of the kid?
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« Reply #10 on: 04 November 2011, 17:44:32 pm » |
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Our child is Singaporean. We each kept our own names and our child has both our last names. There was no issue.
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« Reply #11 on: 04 November 2011, 21:05:25 pm » |
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thanks for the serious replies! We have a very good reason for the baby to take my surname and not its father's.
is your husband the father of the kid? Yes he is the father
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« Reply #12 on: 04 November 2011, 23:26:06 pm » |
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thanks for the serious replies! We have a very good reason for the baby to take my surname and not its father's.
is your husband the father of the kid? Yes he is the father Well, don't leave us hanging - what is the "very good reason" then?
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« Reply #13 on: 05 November 2011, 9:09:32 am » |
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Hi, in Asia it's very common for the wife to keep her maiden name, especially in business circles. It's definitely not compulsory nor automatic that your child takes the father's surname.
They reason why Ms. Tan is referred to as Madam Lim after getting married is because locals tend to think marriage bestows respect and think you'd prefer to be called "Madam.."! Ignore the nosey parkers...
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« Reply #14 on: 10 November 2011, 21:53:52 pm » |
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thanks for the serious replies! We have a very good reason for the baby to take my surname and not its father's.
is your husband the father of the kid? Yes he is the father Well, don't leave us hanging - what is the "very good reason" then? Because the fathers last name is Madoff.
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