It's not so much the wanting to leave, as the not wanting to stay...
it's also graceful knowing when to let go and not flog a dead horse.
There's talk of counseling. Ergo, both parties want to work at it.
Yes, communicating is easier said than done. Giving up the marriage is easier still. The anger will subside, it always does. Start afresh, keep it simple, build, nurture, appreciate.